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^^^ you're such a tool and you're advice is awful
1) nothing in life is permanent and it has nothing to do with "needing" to get better.
2) parent can give the lay of the land, but in the end the kid decides and learns to own his decision. full stop.
3) playing for himself only validates the coaches decision and maybe even turn his friends and teammates against him. the worst advice anyone can give a kid in a team sport. play hard and play right til its over.
4) clearly was a good year, as the kid wants to stay. teach the kid to appreciate the positives and to take the hight road. he's not thanking him for cutting him, duh.
5) drive him to be better? it's single A.
Tons of kids get cut every year, it's part of minor hockey and has nothing to do with failure.
I'm going to be 3rd man in here but, what in heck are you talking about? You think kids in Single A, especially at his age don't care and should not be trying to get better? What kind of a fool tells a kid not to try and get better?
We are talking about this experience as a teaching moment. Most kids these days are bubble wrapped and pampered well into their teens and lack the ability cope with adversity or in this case being handed a shit sandwich. There's a good life lesson here, and it has nothing to do with "getting better" at hockey.
But okay, you want the kid to believe that if he gets better, he won't get cut next year. So how does the "tool" help this 11 year old single A player get better, so that he doesn't get cut from his next team? Power Skating Lessons, Shooting Lessons, Private Skills Sessions, Dryland Training, Road Work, Sports Psychologist, Nutritionist, Performance Enhancing Supplements, 10 weeks of summer hockey camp, spring hockey?
Every kid in rep hockey (all levels) should be striving to improve, whether they are the best player on a first place team or the 10th forward on a last place team. It has nothing to do with getting cut.
Is the tool you? Cuz you're the only who se me to be missing th border point. Which as I read it, states use this adversity of being cut to drive you more. To hate being cut and this to use this as motivation. Who on earth did you miss that point fella?
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Explaining How Politics work, to your 11 year old son", its the title of the post.
The kid needs to learn that there are variables in life that are beyond his control, and sometimes these variables will determine the outcome no matter how good he gets or how hard he tries or how bad he wants it. In the end, sometimes the wrong people are rewarded for the wrong reasons and such is life. Feeling disappointed is normal, but no reason to quit or think any less of himself. Take what he's learned and seek out new opportunities, and it would a good time to re-evaluate his own process as well as his expectations. If he's satisfied, then keep on truckin, if he's not then set new goals and get to work.
I get what you're saying, but it's not the same as being taken off PP, moved to the wing, or to the third line. Associating "getting cut" with the "need for self-improvement", is the wrong message.
I’m going to assume OP is in the west. Most of the teams in the west are pretty garbage so if your kid is on one of the west teams and he’s one of the bottom 3 kids he probably should be cut, sucks but that’s the reality of it. Just tell him the truth, he needs to improve his skills, if your kid is good enough he wouldn’t get cut.
With the exception of DD, MHR ranks the single A west teams higher the teams in the east.
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^^^ you're such a tool and you're advice is awful :lol: :lol: :lol:
1) nothing in life is permanent and it has nothing to do with "needing" to get better.
2) parent can give the lay of the land, but in the end the kid decides and learns to own his decision. full stop.
3) playing for himself only validates the coaches decision and maybe even turn his friends and teammates against him. the worst advice anyone can give a kid in a team sport. play hard and play right til its over.
4) clearly was a good year, as the kid wants to stay. teach the kid to appreciate the positives and to take the hight road. he's not thanking him for cutting him, duh.
5) drive him to be better? it's single A. :lol:
Tons of kids get cut every year, it's part of minor hockey and has nothing to do with failure.
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I'm going to be 3rd man in here but, what in heck are you talking about? You think kids in Single A, especially at his age don't care and should not be trying to get better? What kind of a fool tells a kid not to try and get better?
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We are talking about this experience as a teaching moment. Most kids these days are bubble wrapped and pampered well into their teens and lack the ability cope with adversity or in this case being handed a shit sandwich. There's a good life lesson here, and it has nothing to do with "getting better" at hockey.
But okay, you want the kid to believe that if he gets better, he won't get cut next year. So how does the "tool" help this 11 year old single A player get better, so that he doesn't get cut from his next team? Power Skating Lessons, Shooting Lessons, Private Skills Sessions, Dryland Training, Road Work, Sports Psychologist, Nutritionist, Performance Enhancing Supplements, 10 weeks of summer hockey camp, spring hockey? :lol: :lol: :lol:
Every kid in rep hockey (all levels) should be striving to improve, whether they are the best player on a first place team or the 10th forward on a last place team. It has nothing to do with getting cut.
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Is the tool you? Cuz you're the only who se me to be missing th border point. Which as I read it, states use this adversity of being cut to drive you more. To hate being cut and this to use this as motivation. Who on earth did you miss that point fella?
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"[b]Explaining How Politics work, to your 11 year old son[/b]", its the title of the post. :lol: :lol: :lol:
The kid needs to learn that there are variables in life that are beyond his control, and sometimes these variables will determine the outcome no matter how good he gets or how hard he tries or how bad he wants it. In the end, sometimes the wrong people are rewarded for the wrong reasons and such is life. Feeling disappointed is normal, but no reason to quit or think any less of himself. Take what he's learned and seek out new opportunities, and it would a good time to re-evaluate his own process as well as his expectations. If he's satisfied, then keep on truckin, if he's not then set new goals and get to work.
I get what you're saying, but it's not the same as being taken off PP, moved to the wing, or to the third line. Associating "getting cut" with the "need for self-improvement", is the wrong message.
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I’m going to assume OP is in the west. Most of the teams in the west are pretty garbage so if your kid is on one of the west teams and he’s one of the bottom 3 kids he probably should be cut, sucks but that’s the reality of it. Just tell him the truth, he needs to improve his skills, if your kid is good enough he wouldn’t get cut.
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With the exception of DD, MHR ranks the single A west teams higher the teams in the east.