your kid does not get ice because he does not deserve ice. Coaches control it all, if you do not like your son's ice time, leave to another team the following year. The best advice I can give you is, say NOTHING and tell your son to work harder to EARN more ice time. The entitlement of parents and kids is already too high. Want equal ice? go play house league with a 1:30 shift length.Guest wrote: ↑Wed Sep 18, 2024 10:53 amUnfortunately it is more then a few bad coaches....we are currently in the midst of AAA hockey and it is roughly 90% of the coaches. It is way out of control, and unbelievable that there is no oversight!Guest wrote: ↑Wed Sep 18, 2024 10:40 amYes this is correct. And even though this seems simple, most parents and a few bad coaches are not able to understand this.Guest wrote: ↑Wed Sep 18, 2024 10:24 amin terms of why they are quitting, b/c they can "go elsewhere". They are quitting b/c an adult as told them (via holding them back) that they are not very good at hockey! Kids psychology is very black and white (why we have the young offenders act). Their brains have not developed the abstract ability that would question an adult as being wrong and yes go somewhere else. It is important not to apply ADULT rational, that is why education in developmental sports during G&D is so critical!Guest wrote: ↑Wed Sep 18, 2024 10:10 am"when you are paying 1000's of $$$, do you not want to win".......BINGO this is the whole reason....it is the parents paying thousands of dollars , you are correct, parents and coaches WANT TO WIN. Also backed by sports science, however what kids want (sport science data) they want to be in the action and be part of meaningful minutes ie they want to contribute! In fact 80% would rather be on a losing team and play then on. a winning team and sit.Guest wrote: ↑Wed Sep 18, 2024 10:00 amWhy has kids sports turned in to everything being fair and equal and you can't ruffle feathers and everyone gets a trophy and everyone should be happy to participate?Guest wrote: ↑Wed Sep 18, 2024 9:51 am
Okay this is interesting, and please i want this conversation to be as civil as possible ....kids are in fact quitting b/c of this. 1. Sports sciences has 1000''s of studies that show this through hundreds of different sports, GLOBALLY! A coach with an apposing view of course would not want to accept that fact that they are responsible for having kids quit the sport.....if this was true it would make them a "bad person" so humans create another narrative that makes them feel good about themselves.
My good friend that went to the Quebec Peewee tournament at 13 and won it all, quit at 15, He was one of the top players in the tournament. He quit for this very reason, he grew late. I can attest he loved hockey more than anyone. Ironically, he switched sports, starting a new one at 16 and went on to be the best in Canada x5 and one of the best in the world.
Saying it is about Winning and coaching to win ..would you endorse PED's for your athlete's? Where is the line on winning? Bobby Clarke busting the ankle of the the best Russian Player....did they win?
When you are paying $1000s of dollars, do you not want to win? Coaches at some levels are being paid, and if they want to keep that job, they need to win. A good coach will work with their team and come up with strategies to bring out the best skills in their players. Putting them in the right position. You have taken this a little to far with the PED comment. There is a scoreboard and what's on that scoreboard matters. Have your kid go play pick up somewhere if you don't think the score matters.
As for quitting, sure, coaches can have some responsibility but he can go elsewhere. He can change the situation. Why accept that you have to play for this guy? Did they talk to the association?
There a lot of reasons people quit and the majority quit not because of a coach but because of other interstests. (Other sports, girls, video games, hanging out with friends, etc)
The food for thought here is simple - WHO ARE WE DOING THIS FOR the kids or the parents and coaches? Let's be real!
You know what?. Why don't we do that instead. 1:30 buzzer .
Then, there will be a new issue that, allstar johnny is always first out the gate. Everyone is focused on Equal and guess what... that is not how life works. exceptional talent gets the lions share, IN EVERYTHING in life.
The issue is all the Unathletic talentless loser parents that complain. They think my johnny would be the best if he got that kids ice time, but in reality the kid stinks. They then create a wimp complainer, who no one can stand. the type of parent to rip their kid off the bench half way through and game or quit mid season.
we need to move on in society. stop pandering to these unspectacular humans that have a voice by being a victim. know your role, if you don't like your position work hard and take someones job.